Under Gods Command
Proverbs 11:12 A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.
It is easy to sin with your mouth. And there are many ways to do it. Solomon warns here against saying negative things about your neighbor. Wise men do not despise others with their words. They will hold back the negative things that wicked fools are quick to say.
Speech is one of the most certain indicators of wisdom, or the lack thereof. For the words of a man’s mouth reveal the heart inside (Luke 6:45).
It has been said, “If you can’t say anything nice about your neighbor, then don’t say anything at all.” Perfect! That is exactly what the proverb teaches! And parents should enforce this with children toward siblings, classmates, and any others that come up in conversation.
When Jesus was reviled and threatened, He neither reviled nor threatened back, when He could have justifiably foretold their earthly and eternal damnation (1Peter 2:21-24) We are to follow the very steps of His example to be Christians ruling our tongues!
How kind is the word of God, when it names failures! Gideon is a man of faith! Samson is a hero in the cloud of witnesses! And Lot is a just and righteous man, whose righteous soul was vexed every day by the wicked men of Sodom. Here is kindness and mercy, even to those with major blots in their personal histories.
Under Gods command 