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Proverbs 7:21With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk. 

Women can overpower men – by words! Men crave hearing a woman’s praise, affection, and loyalty. A whore’s flattery is very dangerous. Wicked women use this power to entice men to sin; virtuous women use it to please, protect, and build up their husbands.

Solomon’s long parable about an adulteress seducing a young fool includes the power of her words tempting him to sin with her. Her speech is so powerful, she “caused him to yield” and “forced him” into sexual sin. He is fully guilty for sinning with her, but the wisdom of this proverb is to rightly grasp the danger and power of her flirting words.

In this perverse world, no matter how a woman dresses or acts, it is always the man’s fault for sexual problems. Sexual harassment occurs in only one direction for such weak minds and today’s courts. But the LORD and Solomon warned about women seducing and forcing men, and they were right. Women have power (Pr 6:24-25; 7:26; Eccl 7:26).

Whorish women create more sexual temptation for men than lewd men do for women (Pr 23:27-28). Only the basest of women are attracted to crude, forward, and lascivious men. Women are naturally protected by stronger inhibitions, need for commitment, families, laws, and social decorum. But what can protect men from a bold seductress? Proverbs!

Flattery is excessive praise used to seduce someone against his will. It is presenting a matter very favorably in order to make it more pleasant and to beguile the listener. Men love the praise of a woman, for winning the adoration, favor, and devotion of a woman is an instinctive drive placed in their hearts and loins by God. Evil women manipulate this desire in men to prey on them in their various schemes of seduction for selfish purposes.

Whatever inhibitions against sexual sin a man has – by religion, parental training, or noble character – he will often lose them due to the enticing and flattering speech of a desirable woman. The adoration of a woman is an elixir that only a few exceptional men can resist, and then only by the grace of God. Joseph may have resisted Potiphar’s wife, but he was an exception to the general rule of Scripture and human experience.

King Solomon often warned his son about the smooth and silky words of a whorish seductress (Pr 2:16; 5:3; 6:24; 7:5; 22:14). Wise men will take sober heed and avoid such women, before their lying words steal their souls and virtue. But here he has just described in detail the verbal approach of an adulteress enticing a naïve victim (Pr 7:13-20). His summary in this proverb states the case well. She forced the young man to yield!

Solomon described the whore as using an embrace, a kiss, and a bold, uninhibited face before her words (Pr 7:13). Then he gave a lengthy description of her much fair speech:

  1. I am really a good girl: I am no whore: sleeping with me will not be sin (7:14).
  2. I have made many preparations and have lots of things for a great time (7:14).
  3. My motives are very noble in wanting to share a great time with you (7:15).
  4. I have waited a long time and dreamed often of finding a man like you (7:15).
  5. I am so glad I found you, because I do not want to be with anyone else (7:15).
  6. It is so wonderful to be alone with you and feel the passion between us (7:15).
  7. I have wanted to meet you for a long time; I have made preparations (7:16).
  8. I have arranged things for the ultimate, perfect lovemaking between us (7:16).
  9. I know special things you will love, that other boring women overlook (7:17).
  10. I care about you more than any other woman, so I go to greater efforts (7:17).
  11. We surely have a love between us that no one else has ever had before (7:18).
  12. Let us fully experience the depths of this unique, special love we have (7:18).
  13. No woman has ever felt as strongly about any man as I feel for you (7:18).
  14. Our lovemaking will exceed all the lovemaking in the world’s history (7:18).
  15. The comfort and pleasure we can find in each other will be wonderful (7:18).
  16. Our love and pleasure will last all night – and all our lives – forever (7:18).
  17. Don’t worry about any risk, for my old man is on a long business trip (7:19).
  18. He loves business more than me: I need your love and body so much (7:19).
  19. There is no risk of getting caught; I have figured everything out for us (7:20).
  20. He has money, which he loves; we have a love his money cannot buy (7:20).

Young man, how strong was Samson? Was he stronger than any man? Indeed! He was stronger than you. But whores have slain many strong men (Pr 7:26). Delilah used words to destroy him, even though he knew she wanted to destroy him. Why could he not resist her? Because flattering words from a beautiful woman are too much for most men! Read about his weakness and helplessness before her manipulating flattery (Judges 16:4-21).

Young man, how wise was Solomon? Was he wiser than any man? Indeed! He was wiser than you. But whores have cast down and wounded many great men (Pr 7:26). Exotic women caused even Solomon to sin, against the good advice of his own proverbs (I Kgs 11:1-8; Neh 13:26). Among many nations there was no king like him, and God loved Him, but these women corrupted his great character by power over him (Eccl 7:26).

In avoiding the dangerous flattery of women, you must also guard against seducing words in notes, cards, emails, text messages, tweets, phone messages, letters, forums, or any other forms of communication. It does not matter how a woman’s words arrive in a man’s mind, they are powerful. She can communicate with you more easily today than ever before, and wisdom demands caution in all these new dangers of the 21st century.

Christian woman, guard your speech to men other than your father or husband. Be sober. Hate flirting or flattery. While praise is a wonderful thing, it is too powerful for you to give to men other than on rare occasions and with great discretion. But you should learn to use kind words and feminine adoration of your father and husband, for it can build a man’s soul and character to be the strong and noble creature God intended him to be.

Christian wife, why let the world’s women tempt your husband by your silence or prudery at home? A virtuous wife is skilful in all the arts of lovemaking (Pr 5:19; I Cor 7:1-5; Heb 13:4), including words that comfort, intrigue, arouse, and invite her husband. If you have not been taught such things, you need to read King Solomon’s Song! The book of Proverbs has lessons of wisdom, but his song describes two hot married lovers!

The subtle and damning nature of flattery is seen also in false religion, where good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of simple hearers to sell false doctrine (Rom 16:17-18; II Cor 2:17; 11:3-4,13-15; Col 2:4; II Pet 2:3,18). What is the protection? Look for the plain and simple churches of Jesus Christ with straightforward preaching of the Bible. Look for ministers who provide all things direct and honest (II Cor 4:2). Instead of pulpit manner, look for pulpit content. Instead of presentation, look for doctrine and instruction.

Under Gods Command

Proverbs 7:7 I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who lacked judgment

Stupid boy! Grow up! Do not let a whore use you like that. Do not let her destroy you. Do not go near her. Get away, now! Your soul, body, and reputation are at risk. You are playing with fire, and you will be burned (Pr 6:27-29), even if you are strong (Pr 7:26).

Solomon’s proverb used these words to begin his lengthy parable about an adulteress seducing a young man (Pr 7:6-23). He identified the character of the victim as a simple person, a youth, and a young man without understanding. Mature and wise young men will not fall for a whorish woman as easily, for they understand the danger and avoid her.

What is a simple person? It is a person who lacks ordinary sense or intelligence, more or less foolish, silly, or stupid. It includes being immature and naïve. Solomon used a vulnerable youth for his parable, because he had observed many foolish and stupid young men ruined by lascivious women. His goal was to get the attention of his son (Pr 7:1,24).

What is a youth? It is a person between childhood and adulthood. If childhood ends at puberty and adulthood begins at 30, then it is the 18 years between the ages of 12 and 30 (Num 4:3; I Chron 23:3; Luke 3:23). Solomon observed that both childhood and youth were vanity (Eccl 11:10). As a wise man, he had no regard for the age of 18 as indicating maturity. Any man that has lived to 30 knows that he thought like an infant at 18.

What is a young man void of understanding? He is a male before adulthood that has not grasped the seriousness of life, the consequences of sin, or the dangers of women. He thinks life is a game for pleasure without responsibility or punishment for foolish choices. He has no fear of God, so he chooses by feelings and lusts. The Bible teaches he ought to bear a yoke of hard labor in his youth (Lam 3:27) and sobriety is his chief duty (Tit 2:6).

Such young men are incredibly dangerous – to themselves! They need fathers that will keep them away from temptation, that will train them in righteousness, and that will warn them of the severe consequences of sexual sins. Young man, are you a stupid fool, or a sober and wise man? Father, have you taught and trained your son for life, or not?

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it away (Pr 22:15). All the world’s psychologists can bark about the innocence of children and youth, but God inspired Solomon to write the truth. Wise parents will recognize their children’s inherent depravity and work hard to restrain it. If they do not do their duty, they will be soon shamed (Pr 29:15,17), and their son will die prematurely (Pr 23:13-14).

Paul warned Timothy about youthful lusts, when hormones are raging and the mind and soul are weak (II Tim 2:22). David asked God to forgive him the sins of his youth, when he had fallen to temptation (Ps 25:7). You should be a child in malice – holding no grudges, but a man in understanding – letting wisdom set your conduct (I Cor 14:20).

How can a young man save himself? “Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word” (Ps 119:9). Especially Proverbs (Pr 1:1-5)!

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Proverbs 7:14 I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows.

Whores can be religious. They can even be found at church. Here Solomon described a strange woman – a whore, prostitute, or adulteress. She seduced her young victim by telling him of her religious activities: she was a good woman with high standards, including religious attendance; and she had the best of her sacrifices to share with him.

Peace offerings were split between worshipper and priest. Since the sacrificed item was perfect, the food resulting from it was of the highest quality (Pr 17:1; Lev 3:6; 22:21). It could have been equivalent to USDA Prime+. The part remaining with the worshipper was often shared with friends or used for feasts (Lev 7:15-16; 19:5-6; Deut 12:6-7).

Peace offerings were voluntary offerings to give thanks or pay vows (Lev 19:5). Even a whore can have a form of religion, which serves her selfish goals. It may sooth remains of her vexed conscience; it may disguise her immoral life with a show of religion; and it may assist her seduction of a virtuous young man (Pr 6:26). Or it may serve all three!

The strange woman in Solomon’s extended parable was no common street slut. She was a fine woman with financial means, of noble reputation, and good taste. She offered to share a joyful religious celebration with the young man. The Preacher did his best to warn his son that a whore may change conduct to seduce careful young men (Pr 5:6; Ec 7:26).

Here is a powerful seductress – an elegant and fine woman with character and spirituality to enhance her invitation to adultery. Men may fear prostitutes for their cold hearts, obvious financial motive, likelihood of disease, lack of cleanliness, frequent use, legal risk, and impersonal performance. The Preacher knew how to get to the heart of a matter.

What a fine invitation! She had no ulterior financial motive, for she provided the fare. She was a sensitive and sincere woman well received in the better circles of her city. She had much fine food, and her only ambition appeared a need for company. “Come,” she said, “I need you to complete this wonderful day and enjoy life’s fine things with me.”

Young man! Wake up! Open your eyes! Behind her invitation is a snare to take you down to death and hell (Pr 7:27). Once in the hold of her lascivious arms and under the spell of her flattering lips, you are lost without hope of recovery (Pr 5:22; 22:14; 23:27). Stay away! There are some temptations you can fight, but this temptation you must flee!

A form of religion to cover intentional sin compounds the crime (Pr 21:27). Rome offers many flattering pretensions of religion, but she is the great whore and mother of harlots and abominations of the earth (Rev 17:1-6), which has used vows of celibacy and poverty, both of which are contrary to the Bible, to defraud and destroy many. Beware!

Under Gods Command 

Proverbs 6:31 Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold, though it coast him all the wealth of his house

Stealing is a crime, even if to obtain food when hungry. A man can beg or borrow food, if he has an emergency. Though men do not despise a thief for stealing food due to hunger, they will still punish him according to the law for violating the property rights of another person (Pr 6:30). If too proud to beg or borrow, then he will be reduced to servitude to restore the stolen goods and give proper compensation to their rightful owner.

This proverb is part of Solomon’s condemnation of adultery, for there is no justification for that heinous crime (Pr 6:27-35). Men may understand stealing due to hunger, but they will still require full restoration. But adultery cannot be understood! It cannot be undone by any amount of payment, and men do not understand such a criminal act, for it violates a man’s most intimate possession without any possibility of restoration or replacement.

Cavemen did not dream up property rights or the protection of property. The LORD God Jehovah of Israel laid down the law by writing in stone, “Thou shalt not steal” (Ex 20:15; Deut 5:19).  When found, thieves had to restore the stolen goods and compensatory goods to the extent of two to seven times the amount stolen (Ex 22:1-15). If the thief could not pay, he was sold into slavery to clear his debts. So much for foolish debtor’s prisons!

How far did God’s laws go to protect property rights? If you found a thief in your house, you had the right to use lethal force and kill him. God understood the value of security at night and the rush of adrenalin at the intrusion of a thief in your house. However, if you found the thief selling your stuff the next day at a flea market, you could not exact physical revenge on him. He was merely to restore the stolen property (Ex 22:2-3).

Such restitution would reduce a nation’s prisons. If a thief cannot pay, sell him as a slave in the private sector. Thieves would not “pay their debt to society” by living in a warm dormitory, eating three meals a day, having proper clothes, and playing cards. They would quickly learn the value of property and freedom without any expense to taxpayers.

Property rights are not an invention of capitalism or political or economic theory. They are God’s revealed will and law for society. He protects your assets from others, who by envy or greed covet what is not theirs and will subtly or violently try to take yours. If you know this, then take care to protect others’ property, even more than your own (Gen 31:39; I Sam 25:14-16; Pr 16:11; 20:10,14,23; 22:28; 23:10; I Cor 6:7-8; Phil 2:4).

Dear reader, do you understand that adultery is much worse, for the damage done cannot be repaired, and the loss is far greater? So God required capital punishment for a sin that today is glamorized and protected (Lev 20:10; Deut 22:22-24; Job 31:9-12; Heb 13:4). If the thought of a thief breaking into your house and taking your things is offensive, you should be much more offended and angry at any thoughts of adultery. Keep your heart with all diligence to despise and hate any fantasy to harm another marriage by adultery.

God compares His relationship to His people as a marriage, so He considers friendship you have with the world to be spiritual adultery (Jas 4:4). He hates the world, and the world hates Him, so your flirting with worldly friends, lifestyle, or philosophy is as abominable to Him as a wife making love to her husband’s enemy. Be faithful and loyal to Him alone today, letting Him know that you also hate the world and will not touch it.

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Proverbs 7:24 Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. 

What is a father for? To bring home the bacon? To protect the home at night against intruders? To play ball in the yard? To provide an allowance for candy and junk? To finance a college education? The LORD, Creator of heaven and earth, declared fathers are to bring their children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4).

What should a father teach? How to ride a bicycle? How to balance a checkbook? How to drive a car? God declared fathers are to teach the fear of the LORD and to keep the way of the LORD (Ps 34:11; Gen 18:19). Since fearing God and keeping His commandments is the whole duty of man, this is his primary goal of teaching (Eccl 12:13-14; Ps 78:1-8).

God condemns fornication, or sex outside marriage (Heb 13:4). Solomon used this chapter to warn his son about whorish women. After introducing the subject (Pr 7:1-5), he wrote a lengthy parable of a foolish young man seduced to destruction by a strange woman 

Proverbs 7:6-23: At the window of my house I looked out through the lattice. I saw among the simple, I noticed among the young men, a youth who lacked judgment. He was going down the street near the corner, walking along in the direction of her house at twilight, as the day was fading, as the dark of night set in. Then out came a woman to meet him dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. (She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home; now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.) . She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazed face she said: “I have fellowship offerings at home; today I fulfilled my vows. So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt. I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. Come, let’s drink deep of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey. He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon.” With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk. All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter like a deer stepping into a noose till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life. 

This proverb begins his summary warning (Pr 7:24-27).

It is a shame most Christian fathers are not as open, practical, and realistic as Solomon, especially in this lascivious generation. Rather than being prudish and silent about sexual temptations, fathers need to warn against them with every technique they can muster. The danger is great; the temptations are everywhere; young men need such fathers.

Solomon applied his parable by calling his children to listen to him. Due to the subject matter, they were not infants or young children. Fathers know far more about these things than sons in their teens or twenties.  He told his children to listen and pay attention. He used the horrible fate of the young man to show they needed this instruction and warning.

Father! Do not be intimidated. Do not be ashamed. Do not be reluctant. Your son faces temptations of pornography, casual sex, and forward women. Be open, practical, and realistic. Bring the word of God to bear on this important area of his life. Compare Joseph and Samson. Describe the details that made Joseph greater than David.

Children! When your father, or mother, speaks to you about the sexual matters of life, listen to them. Pay attention. You are still a simple youth void of understanding (Pr 7:7). Make it easy for them to teach you. Tell them your temptations. Thank them for talking.

Reader! Your Father in heaven has taught all things that pertain to life and godliness. Have you listened well? Do you pay attention? Have you fully obeyed Him? It is good and profitable to heed parents’ instruction, but it is much more crucial to obey God’s.

Under Gods Command

Proverbs 02:07 He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a buckler (shield) to those who walk is blameless.

The only God has blessings for your obedience – wisdom and protection. He provides true and valid wisdom in abundance for righteous men. God has all the wisdom in the universe, but He has made much available for good men. And He will also be a shield to them as well, which shows strong protection by using the metaphor of a battle shield.

As in any writing, check the context to grasp this proverb. King Solomon, the Preacher of Israel, had listed the means for finding the fear of the Lord and the knowledge of God (Pr 2:1-5). He then taught that since God is the fountain and source of wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, He gives these things abundantly to faithful men or women (Pr 2:6-9).

Reader, what will you do? Here are wisdom and protection for life. They are available to all who will humble themselves and seek them from the LORD Jehovah, beside Whom there is no other god. When a man chooses to follow the way of righteousness revealed in the Bible, God will reveal truth and wisdom to Him (Ps 119:100; John 7:17).

If you follow the world – the way of folly and sin, you will suffer the dire consequences of being blinded horribly (Rom 1:18-27), of having God turn against you (Pr 1:20-32; Is 63:10), and dying a miserable death in ignorance and sorrow (Pr 5:11-13; 8:36). But you can also choose life and blessing, which God will give for obedience (I Pet 3:10-12).

How much wisdom has God laid up for the righteous? The Bible contains more wisdom than all the educators and institutions of “higher learning” combined (Is 8:20; I Cor 1:19-20; I Tim 6:20). On any subject, the Bible provides answers that confound and shame the ignorance of men (Ps 94:11; 119:113,128). How much time do you spend reading it?

God appointed Solomon Preacher in Israel to give inspired wisdom to His people (Eccl 1:1,12; 12:8-11). And He has ordained more preachers through Jesus Christ since His resurrection and ascension into heaven (Ps 68:18; Eph 4:8-16). It is your privilege to seek them out and find your wisdom from God (Jer 3:15; Mal 2:7; Col 1:28; II Tim 3:16-17).

What is a buckler? It is a shield (I Chr 5:18; Song 4:4). When listed with a shield, it is different in size, construction, or battle use (Ps 35:2). By using buckler as a metaphor, Solomon taught God’s protection for upright men (Pr 30:5; Ps 18:2,30; 84:11; 144:2). The angels of Jehovah, spirit beings superior to men by any measure, are servants for those who fear God and keep His commandments (Ps 34:7; Heb 1:13-14). “I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety” (Ps 4:8).

The maximum safety you can have on earth is to walk uprightly, which is to have goals, habits, and a lifestyle of doing what is right. The eyes of Almighty God look throughout the world to show Himself strong for those with perfect hearts (II Chr 16:9). Not only will God protect the godly man during life on earth, righteous living is also the assurance and evidence that you will be safe in the Day of Judgment (Matt 7:21-23; II Pet 1:5-11).

Under Gods Command

Proverbs 7:4-5 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call understanding your kinsman; 5) they will keep you from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words

It is God’s blessing to have a wife as your life companion and lover (Pr 18:22; 19:14; Gen 2:18; Eccl 9:9; Heb 13:4). Any other woman, though you may know her, though you may want her, is a stranger. She cannot be your companion or lover. She is an outsider, a foreigner, to your marriage. Solomon warned long and loud against the sin of adultery.

Sexual sin is a great threat to wisdom, success, and prosperity. It corrupts and enslaves body and soul (Pr 5:20-23; 7:22-27). History reveals the destroyed lives of men, who did not reject the advances or availability of a woman outside their marriages. From princes to paupers, men have been seduced and sacrificed by adulteresses (Pr 23:27-28; 31:3).

What is a strange woman? Solomon used this description to describe an adulteress or whore, a woman that you have no right before God or men to have sex with (Pr 2:16; 5:3,10,20; 6:24; 7:5; 20:16; 22:14; 23:27,33; 27:13). Jephthah was the son of a strange woman, because his father conceived him with a prostitute (Judges 11:1-2).

How is she strange? Does it only apply to liaisons with unknown partners? No, the word is used to describe a woman with whom you have no rights for intimate companionship or sexual pleasures. She is outside your marriage. She is a foreigner to your bed. She belongs to another man, either father or husband. You have no marital rights to her.

Where is she found? Anywhere, today! Street prostitutes and hired escorts are extreme examples. Women’s liberation and Hollywood give every woman the right to sex, so she is in the office, the neighborhood, the gym, or even church. The perilous times of the last days turn even Christian girls and women into whores (II Tim 3:1-5; II Pet 2:10-19).

Consensual sex is a lie – your Creator God has not consented! It does not matter that she is willing, wanting, or eager. The King of heaven is angry, jealous, and provoked. Do not call it a “victimless” crime! The Lord is a victim of your moral rebellion. And there are always other victims to sexual sins, even if you are too selfish or stupid to consider them.

Flattery is her tool. Men are helpless before the seductive and smooth praise of a whore (Pr 2:16; 5:3; 6:24; 7:21). Here are two lessons: men must avoid communication with flirting women, and wives should praise their husbands. Proverbs are dark sayings, and every bit of wisdom should be extracted from them for you to maximize success in life.

Godly men will strictly guard exchanges with women other than their wives in person, by phone, by email, or by text. Wise men are not moved by the lying words of liars, and there is hardly a greater liar than an unfaithful woman. She hides death and hell by her adoring and intimate words (Pr 2:18; 5:4-5; 7:27; 9:18). Prudent men know she has told others the same things in the past and will tell yet others in the future.

Christian wives will adore and praise their husbands, so the flattery of whores will not affect them as much. Paul commanded wives to reverence husbands (Eph 5:33). Peter illustrated a wife’s spirit by Sarah calling Abraham lord, even in her thoughts (I Pet 3:6; Gen 18:12). Loving a husband, a duty of wives (Tit 2:3-5), includes loving him verbally. When was the last time you told or wrote your husband about the great man, provider, and lover he is? If he is not, then find those good things he is and tell him passionately.

Solomon diligently tried to warn his son (Pr 7:1-3). You have this personal warning from the wisest man on earth in writing. How well will you listen? Wisdom, success, and prosperity are impossible, if you allow strange women a place in your life. You must hate her in pornography, movies, advertisements, the gym, the office, or your church. Get a wife and love her today (Pr 5:15-20). A good wife is better than any ten whores.

Under Gods Command

Proverbs 7:1 My son, keep my words and store up my commands and you will live.

Sons often neglect their father’s instructions and warnings. If they forget them, they will not be ready, when temptation is in their eyes, ears, heart, and loins. And the temptation here is dangerous and powerful – a beautiful and skilled adulteress (Pr 7:5-27). The same lesson applies to young women, when they are infatuated with a handsome man. Solomon begins and ends his warning with appeals to remember his advice (Pr 7:1-4,24).

Solomon knew the folly and vanity of youth (Pr 22:15; Eccl 11:10). He knew the great vulnerability that young men and women have to sexual lusts and temptations (Ps 25:7; Eccl 12:5; Ezek 23:3,8,19,21; II Tim 2:22). Their freedom, folly, naiveté, sexual desire, and youthful bodies create a dangerous combination. He also knew the haughty spirit in most of their hearts. Therefore, he repeatedly begged his children to listen and remember his instruction (Pr 1:8; 2:1-5; 3:1-4; 4:1-5,13; 5:1-2,7; 6:20-21; 7:1-4,24; 8:32-33).

The dangers of not remembering are great. How will a young man resist, when his eyes are full of her beauty, his ears full of her flattery, his heart full of her offered love and submission, and his loins full of desire (Pr 5:3; 6:24-25; 7:13-21)? How will a young woman resist, when her eyes are full of his manliness, her ears full of his flattery, her heart full of his attention and affection, and her body craves his embrace (Gen 34:1-3)?

The consequences of not remembering are great. Solomon warned his children very carefully about the bitter pain that would wrack their consciences and bodies after sinning sexually (Pr 5:7-14). They would lose their reputations, years of their lives, and their labor and money. They would grieve about their hypocrisy, but it would be too late. They would remember the many warnings they had been given, but it would also be too late.

Why is it hard for youth to remember instruction? They have undisciplined and wanderings minds; they easily forget what was said in their rush to explore new things; they get enraptured in the vanity of youthful activities and lusts; they think their teachers are too conservative and missing the great pleasures of life; they fall into temptation naively and unawares without recollection of warnings. Youth is folly and vanity!

Consider Joseph in Egypt. He worked for Potiphar in his late teens and twenties, the years of a man’s most powerful sexual drive (Gen 37:2; 41:46). He was far from home; no one knew him; Egypt’s morality was low; and a beautiful woman begged him to sleep with her (Gen 39:7-12). He did not have a Bible, and there were none for sale at the local pyramid! How did he resist this woman in these circumstances? How did he give such a sober answer to her? He remembered the instructions of his father from his youth. Glory!

But consider Samson with Philistine women. Though he had good parents, who had been given careful instructions about his life, he chose early on to reject their advice about women (Judges 13:1-25; 14:1-3). By forgetting the warnings of his parents, Samson was in no condition to resist the lying words, hired body, and short-term pleasure of Delilah; and he was utterly ruined (Judges 16:1-21). If only he had remembered his parents’ advice and married a beautiful woman of Israel and had children with her (Pr 5:15-23).

Solomon had been taught well by both of his parents – David and Bathsheba (Pr 4:1-4; I Chron 28:9). And he had witnessed the horrible evils of sexual sins in his own father and family (II Sam 11:1-27; 12:1-25; 13:1-39). But he forgot his father’s instruction and ruined his life with 1000 ungodly women (I Kgs 11:1-8; Neh 13:23-27). If even this wise man could forget the instruction he had been given, the danger is much greater for you.

How well do you hear and remember what you are taught by your parents and pastors? Jesus Christ taught that careful hearing is very important, for He knew the three enemies of retention and application (Luke 8:11-18). Do you crave hearing and learning to grow in knowledge (I Pet 2:1-3; II Pet 3:18)? Do you review what you are taught and practice applying it (Heb 5:12-14)? Can you teach others, or do you still need to be taught?

Under Gods Command

 Proverbs 25:6-7 Do not exalt yourself in the King’s presence and do not claim a place among great men, (7) it is better for him to say to you, “Come up here,” than for him to humiliate you before a nobleman.

Jesus made this proverb into a parable

We should not seek honor for ourselves. It is better to quietly and faithfully accomplish the work God has given us to do. As others notice the quality of our lives, then they will draw attention to us.

When he noticed how the guests picked the places of honor at the table he told them this parable:

Luke 14:7-11 When someone invites you to a wedding feast, do not take the place of honor, for a person more distinguished than you may have been invited. If so the host who invited both of you will come and say to you, ‘Give this person your seat.’ Then, humiliated, you will have to take the least important place. But when you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, ‘Friend, move up to a better place.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all the other guests. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

14:7–14 Jesus taught two lessons here. First, he spoke to the guests, telling them not to seek places of honor. Service is more important in God’s kingdom than status. Second, he told the host not to be exclusive about whom he invites. God opens his kingdom to everyone.

14:11 How can we humble ourselves? Some people try to give the appearance of humility in order to manipulate others. Others think that humility means putting themselves down. Truly humble people compare themselves only with Christ, realize their sinfulness, and understand their limitations. On the other hand, they also recognize their gifts and strengths and are willing to use them as Christ directs. Humility is not self-degradation; it is realistic assessment and commitment to serve.

Jesus advised people not to rush for the best places at a feast. People today are just as eager to raise their social status, whether by being with the right people, dressing for success, or driving the right car.

Lets Bring it Home: Whom do you try to impress? Rather than aiming for prestige, look for a place where you can serve. If God wants you to serve on a wider scale, he will invite you to take a higher place.

Under Gods Command

Proverbs 7:13 She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said:

Here is the strange woman at work. Solomon continued his lengthy description of a whorish woman seducing a young man. Here are three aspects of her character and conduct. She was physically aggressive; she used kisses to seduce; she was immodestly and shamelessly bold. She caught him; she kissed him; she spoke sexually to him.

Virtuous women are physically aggressive, great kissers, and uninhibited – with their husbands in marriage! To other men, and before marriage, they are reserved, modest, and shamefaced. But the strange woman – the adulteress – pursues men outside marriage, kisses men outside marriage, and is immodestly and shamelessly bold outside marriage.

A godly woman is not physically aggressive before marriage – she is chaste, pure, and reserves herself totally for her husband (II Cor 11:2). She is ready to be aggressive; she wants to be aggressive; but she understands the power of sexual temptation, and she will do nothing to arouse any man, even her fiancé. Her father also understands, and he keeps her from being alone with a man for even the opportunity of sin, especially her fiancé.

Once a godly woman is married, she is an aggressive lover, following the holy example of the Shulamite in Solomon’s Song (Song 1:2-4,12-14; 2:3-7; 3:1-5; 5:2-16; 8:1-4). What makes the difference? God’s approval of passionate lovemaking in marriage, where both spouses are to be fully satisfied (Pr 5:19; I Cor 7:1-5; Heb 13:4)! The world mocks such virgins before marriage, but real Christian women are the greatest lovers on earth.

Whores are aggressive before marriage and outside marriage! In Solomon’s parable, she physically grabbed the young man. She was the aggressor, and such sexual boldness is glamorized daily for all young girls by the entertainment industry, though only two generations ago most girls were reserved sexually. Only a few men are strong enough to resist such aggression. Joseph was an exception, and a glorious one (Gen 39:7-12). What can a man do? Follow Solomon’s advice, and stay far away from them (Pr 5:8; 7:8).

There are several kinds of kisses. A godly woman knows the differences, and she reserves the intimate ones for marriage. Under cultural, spiritual, or other circumstances, she may kiss a variety of men and women with a saluting kiss of greeting. Rachel, and her father Laban, both kissed Jacob this way (Gen 29:11,13), which is referred to by Paul as a holy kiss, for its total lack of even a hint of sexual intent (Rom 16:16; II Cor 13:12).

Real kisses are for marriage – they are part of lovemaking. They can be more intimate and personal than other sex acts, as they involve such close proximity of faces, eyes, and mouths. The Shulamite gloried in the kisses of lovemaking with her husband (Song 1:2; 5:16; 7:9). But she knew better than to ever give such an intimate and personal invitation to any other man, and she had likely not given it to Solomon before their wedding night.

Whores use kisses before marriage and outside marriage to arouse men and invite them to lovemaking, when they have no right to do so. Whores, by much practice, can raise a man’s sexual drive sky high by kissing. Virtuous girls, ignorant and inexperienced, send a very wrong impression by allowing an intimate kiss before marriage. Solomon’s strange woman, a whore with malicious designs, initiated the kiss herself to seduce her victim.

Why kiss intimately before marriage? What is the purpose? Does it help qualify the other person? Does it help keep your relationship pure until it is sanctified by marriage? Or does it provoke a strong temptation in the mind and body that seeks for full lovemaking? Why create such a horrible predicament? Why increase sexual tension and frustration before marriage? You can learn more about the other person with mature chaperones!

And also, memory of other kisses – enjoyed without the difficulties of married life – may haunt your soul in the future. Why not limit your experience and pleasure of kissing to the one to whom you are married – after you are married? Is this bizarre and strange to you? Holiness is strange in the 21st century! And remember young man, the girl who aggressively kisses you early, will more easily kiss another later, even if married to you!

Fathers are responsible to keep daughters from situations where kissing and other stages of foreplay are possible. There is no reason for a dating couple to ever be alone. What is the purpose or value? There is nothing learned by being alone that cannot be learned in a fraction of that time with helpful chaperones. Girls should be taught the glory and joy of marriage and the lovemaking that is part of it, but they should not have to face those difficult moments alone with a man, when passions are high, even if it is their fiancé.

A virtuous girl or woman is bashful, chaste, modest, and reserved in speech with any man, even her fiancé before marriage. Bold sexual speech is another way men are aroused, as proven by popularity of 1-900 calls, chat rooms, Facebook, texting, sexting, etc. Girls seeking to please their heavenly Father and show kind regard to men, especially their fiancé, will reserve all sexual conversation to one man, and only after marriage.

Whores have no modesty or reserve, and by previous loss of God-given inhibitions, they are very bold in verbal sexual invitations. They do not blush (Jer 3:3). Solomon’s strange woman boldly described the sexual pleasure she was able and willing to give the young fool (Pr 7:14-21). Not inferior to any of her other attractive features, the flattering speech of a strange woman is overpowering (Pr 2:16; 5:3; 6:24; 7:5; 22:14). Just ask Samson!

What should a wise man do? Same answer as before! Stay away from her! Far away from her! If you are far from her, how can she grab you, kiss you, or talk to you? If you do not go near her, her haunts, or her activities, you will never face these powerful temptations that destroy many strong men (Pr 7:26; 23:28). Stay away from many coed gyms, nightclubs, personal email exchanges, office parties, Internet chat rooms, dances, texting, beaches, or close relationships or frequent conversations with any woman but your wife.