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Under Gods Command

Proverbs 6:27 Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?

Casual sex will burn you! There is no protection against it. Marriage makes sexual pleasure honorable, but God will judge adulterers and fornicators (Heb 13:4). But before God judges you, those that know you and your own soul will punish you as well.

You know the answer to this proverb’s question. It is an emphatic, No! A man cannot take fire close to his body and keep his clothes safe. Fire that close will not only singe his clothes, it will burn them badly. And it is just as true that a man playing around sexually with another man’s wife will burn his life. There is nothing casual about sexual sin.

Solomon warned his son about the danger of the strange woman – a whorish woman or adulteress (Pr 6:23-35). He wanted his son to know that adultery would bring severe consequences, much the same as embracing fire will certainly burn a man’s clothes. The sin of adultery will burn your life as surely as fire in your bosom will burn your clothing.

How does adultery burn a man? The main point in the warning here is the adulterer’s reputation – he will not be innocent, because this sin cannot easily be forgiven or overlooked (Pr 6:29). Men do not despise a thief, if he steals due to hunger – his crime is understandable, even though he will be punished (Pr 6:30-31). But men do not understand or accept an outsider stealing personal intimacy with their wives (Pr 6:32-35).

The proverb asks a simple question: you know the obvious answer. A rhetorical question is a powerful tool of persuasive reasoning. You have no doubt as you visualize a man embracing fire in his bosom – his clothes will surely be burned! The image is to be transferred to adultery – the man holding another man’s wife will be burned just as surely! He will suffer severe and sure consequences for violating another man’s marriage.

You know the answer to the proverb, and you know its application. But many lie about this obvious lesson! Hollywood sells movies by appealing to sexual lusts and fantasies, so they never show the consequences of adultery; instead they work it into most every movie they produce. They want you to believe that fire will not burn your clothes. They are greedy liars directed by the devil to satisfy sinful lusts to fill their covetous purses.

Some psychologists say an affair can enhance marriage. The music industry by lifestyle and lyrics suggest it as the only exciting love. Soap operas would not exist without it. Romance novels create lustful fantasies for it. Nightclubs make a place to get it started. Euphemisms like “having an affair,” “having a lover,” or “playing around” hide its consequences. They lie! Adultery will hurt you as surely as fire will burn clothes! Run!

The greatest liar about adultery is inside you – your sinful heart inherited from Adam. If you give it the least freedom, your heart will tell you that you can get away with adultery and that the pleasure is worth it. Do you know your heart is this wicked (Jer 17:9)? If you do, you are partially protected. If you do not, you need to learn it. Then you need to reject every man or input that suggests or teaches that adultery is safe. It is not safe (Heb 13:4).

If you have committed adultery, you already know this proverb is true, unless God has turned you over to a reprobate mind and shut down your conscience (Rom 1:18-32; Eph 4:17-19). If you know you are guilty, and if you know you have sinned, God can easily forgive you through the Lord Jesus Christ. Never forget that He came into this world for sinners, and forgiven prostitutes were some of His followers (I Tim 1:15; Matt 21:31).

If guilt is crushing you, remember repenting adulterers and adulteresses in the Bible. God forgave David and used him mightily after adultery with Bathsheba and murder of her husband. The Lord Jesus accepted harlots into His kingdom, chose the adulteress of Samaria for the gospel in that city, forgave the woman taken in adultery by the Pharisees, and appeared first to Mary Magdalene after His resurrection. How could He be merciful to a sin God hates? Because He took the sin of adultery on Himself on the cross of Calvary. It will never again burn those who are found in Him (Is 54:4-12; I Cor 6:9-11)!


Under Gods Command

Proverbs 7:10 Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.

That woman is dangerous! How can you tell, if you cannot see her heart? Look at her clothes. There are other measures, but immodest clothing on a woman is a warning. If you read all of Solomon’s description, you will see other marks of a dangerous woman.

The simple young man in this proverb does not stand a chance (Pr 7:6-9). He foolishly went looking for carnal excitement with a loose woman, and this seductress has found him. She will take him down to ruin like an ox to the slaughter (Pr 7:21-23). Be warned – a sensual woman with evil intentions is too powerful for even strong men (Pr 7:24-27).

A whorish woman dresses to attract men’s eyes. Sexual sin requires removing clothes, but the strange woman puts clothes on to get their attention first. Then with the hook in their eyes, she proceeds with flattery, kisses, and embraces (Pr 7:11-21). Here Solomon continues to warn his son about the grave dangers of the strange woman (Pr 7:1-27).

A strange woman is any woman you have not married – you do not belong in bed with her, and you have no right to her body. She is an alien or stranger to your marriage and lovemaking. She is to remain unknown to you in any intimate way. Only marriage makes sex honorable (Heb 13:4). Without marriage, you are forbidden sexual pleasure with her.

What is a harlot’s attire? It is clothing designed and worn to attract men’s eyes to her body and excite the lusts of their flesh for sexual sins. It is accessories and apparel planned to maximize her physical appearance for notice and enticement of men. It is a woman’s choices and efforts at dressing to be as sexually desirable as possible. Wise men will stay away from any such women or any place where such women congregate.

Christian woman, do you ever dress like a prostitute? You may not intend it, but if your clothes draw a man’s attention to your body, then you are guilty of this wickedness. You are an accomplice in the destruction of men’s souls, even if you do not sleep with them. How careful are you before leaving your house? Do you check your backside in a mirror? Do you know what to look for? Do you ask your father, brothers, or husband to help?

If you think prostitutes wear five-inch stiletto heels, fishnet hose, short black leather skirts, and tight, bright red sweaters, you prove your ignorance of this subject. Expensive escorts may dress in seductive business attire that is totally different than the image in your mind. Solomon here described a classy, wealthy, and religious married woman.

Take note. This whore is subtle of heart. That means she is crafty and deceptive in her ways. She does not come right out and say, “I am a whore, and I want you to sin with me.” She is not so stupid, cheap, crass, or vile to dress like a street walker. She wants to maintain an upscale image while gaining the visual attention of a higher class of men.

God made clothes to cover Adam and Eve. While they partially covered certain parts with aprons of fig leaves, the Lord covered them thoroughly with coats of skins (Gen 3:7,21)! Clothes are to cover and conceal, not to uncover and reveal! Skin does not need to show to reveal a woman’s figure that leads men’s eyes and minds to sexual lust. The hourglass shape of a woman revealed through tight clothing is as powerful as lots of skin.

The clothing industry does not seek to hide women’s bodies, but to enhance, reveal, and uncover. Every year new features are designed to reveal more of her body in a more flattering way than before. Every Christian woman should take care to be scrupulously modest in attire. Since a woman cannot understand a man’s mind, she should listen to father, brother, or husband about lustful features of clothing, and she should avoid them.

Short skirts show too much leg, low blouses too much chest. Every chaste and modest woman should know these clothing choices are wrong. Spandex and spaghetti straps, bare midriffs and low riders, and tight jeans and tube tops are also off limits for virtuous women. Of course, a husband might like all these! Modesty does not apply to a woman with her husband (Heb 13:4). Let every married woman be a sporting woman (Gen 26:8)!

But long skirts can show and tease as much or more by their slits, and straight or clingy skirts of any length reveal the hips and derriere too plainly. High blouses made of sheer material can be worse than low blouses, and a turtleneck sweater can emphasize a woman’s bosom more than most garments. Long sleeve sweaters can often be immodest.

High heels were not invented for comfort, but to alter the shape of the calves and the movement of the hips while walking. A mincing walk is a wanton walk (Is 3:16). Sleeveless dresses, sandals with straps, lace and gauze overlays, ankle bracelets, and many other items should concern the consciences of women striving for public modesty.

Of course, modern women will rebel at any suggestions or restrictions on their apparel choices. But the women of just a few years ago would have thought these new styles to be inappropriate for proper modesty. What is happening? The world is in moral freefall into the abyss of lascivious excess. True saints look for the strait gate and narrow way!

The blessed God, Who created the woman and invented sex, declared that a meek and quiet spirit is precious in His sight (I Pet 3:3-4)! In His sight? In His sight! A gracious and godly woman is beautiful to watch, but her soul and spirit are seen, rather than her body. A noble woman emphasizes holy conduct and a humble and gracious spirit over her hair, accessories, or an outfit. She will adorn herself first and foremost with godliness.

Scripture does not teach women to be frumpy, ugly, or neglectful in their appearance. In fact, the virtuous woman was a looker! But she did it in such a way to please and honor the Lord and her husband (Pr 31:10-12,22,30). See the comments on Pr 31:22. Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Abigail, and other holy women were beautiful to see! It is the priority that counts. A woman must emphasize a godly and gracious spirit over physical looks.

Christian man, since sexual sin with a strange woman begins with a look, there is safety in avoiding her presence as much as possible. You are foolishly sinful to choose places where women dress immodestly (Rom 13:14). If you cannot totally avoid her presence, then avoid looking at her. Why get your lusts even started (I Jn 2:16; Jas 1:13-16)! If you stay far away and avoid looking at immodestly dressed women, the battle is nearly won!

As casual worship in contemporary churches increases, there will be more attire of harlots seen even where God is supposedly worshipped. This is a shameful disgrace and great sin, but few will speak against it due to the vehement response they would get from women that want to wear current fashions and attract male attention. Christian woman, set yourself apart as being special, virtuous, and noble by modest clothing and actions.

If you are a husband or father, make sure your wife or daughters wear modest clothing, or you are an indirect accomplice to the temptations of other men. The saints of God should provide holy and modest companions and assemblies for one another, where sexual temptations by immodest attire are never part of the mix. May the Lord Jesus Christ be praised by such pure and virtuous men and women, even in a fornicating generation!