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Under Gods Command

Proverbs 6:28 Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being burned?

Here is a beautiful proverb – short, powerful, wise, memorable. The question is simple; the answer is simple. No! It is impossible to walk on hot coals and not burn your feet!

Profane skeptics accuse God of ignorance, but devil-possessed aborigines or modern “fear-conquerors” that protect their feet with numerous safety measures are ignored here. If these pagans want to bark against the Bible here, let us prepare the coals! They will believe! We will introduce them to the God of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego!

The context is fornication – sexual intimacy with other than your spouse (Pr 6:20-35). It is impossible to fornicate without suffering for it. The sin of adultery is a heinous crime, and it has horrible and far-reaching consequences (Pr 6:29-35). And these terrible results cannot be avoided any more than fire will not burn your feet. Be forewarned, reader!

Such a lesson flies in the face of modern wisdom and entertainment. Psychologists today suggest adultery to revive dull marriages, and Hollywood promotes fornication as the most common, natural, and certain pleasure in life. Sitcoms, advertisements, movies, and serials all teach incessantly that fornication is wonderful and without harmful consequences. What a lie! Satan, the spirit of Hollywood, wants to take you to hell!

But the Creator has spoken, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Heb 13:4). Jehovah created sex and all its associated pleasures, but He designed its maximum enjoyment for a monogamous relationship of one man and one woman committed by marriage covenant before Him.

Samson thought he could walk on sexual coals, but Delilah stole his strength and left him blinded and chained to grind for the Philistines. David did not think he would be burned either, but his short tryst with Bathsheba cost him dearly for the rest of his life. Profane Amnon craved his sister, but the event horribly disappointed him and cost him his life.

Joseph is a hero, for when he saw and felt the fire, he ran as far and as fast as he could. He knew that even though she greatly desired him, there would be hell to pay with God and men. He chose the certainty of a false accusation rather than the lying promise of stolen pleasure. He knew he would be burned if he stayed, so he ran from the fire.

The rule is simple: if you play with fire, you will get burned. Moses said, “Be sure your sin will find you out” (Num 32:23). Do not lie to yourself. God will not be mocked. If you compromise His rules, especially in sexual sins, you will suffer horribly for it.

There may be short-term pleasure in sin (Heb 11:25), but the long-term consequences crush and grind that little pleasure into oblivion. You will never remember the pleasure when the horrible consequences of your folly burst into flames. Then it is too late to turn back! You are scarred! You have wrecked relationships! Your reputation is ruined! Your enemies have claims against you! Former friends hate you! Your soul is defiled! And the woman’s husband cannot be appeased no matter what you do (Pr 6:29-35)!

Dear reader, are you playing with fire? Pornography? Romance novels? Lustful thoughts? Marital discontentment? A relationship with the other sex that warms more than your spirit? Each of these sins is playing with fire. You will be burned. Repent, and run away!

How do parents keep children from getting burned? They make them stay far away from fire. And the Heavenly Father does the same. He says, “Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away” (Pr 4:15). Solomon warned against lust in your heart and the sight of your eyes (Pr 6:25). Fear of this great danger will not allow television, music, movies, books, magazines, texting, tweeting, or any other sexual temptation that could start a fire.

Matches themselves cause little damage; it is the fire they kindle that can burn everything in its path, so parents keep matches from children. Paul, who knew the burning danger of concupiscence, or sexual lusts (Rom 7:8), told you to avoid even the possibility of a fire (Ro 13:14). You do this by staying away from even those things that might start a fire.

Ignore this simple lesson to your own peril. Fire burns; burns are horribly painful; they leave ugly and miserable scars. Get away now, before it is too late! Throw away all the sexual matches and lighter fluid in your house! Get all combustible material outside! Stay far away from any person who tempts your heart or any thing that leads you to sexual sin.

If you are single, seek a godly spouse by wise means (I Cor 7:2,9). If you are married, build the intimate part of your marriage and kill any discontentment or bitterness (I Cor 7:3-5; Col 3:19; Pr 5:19). The danger here, in your degenerate society, is great. Make sure you are using God’s primary means to avoid this temptation and its consequences.

And then pray after the example of the blessed and sinless Lord Jesus Christ, “Lead us not into temptation.” For who can resist the power of this temptation? Only by the power of the Holy Spirit can a Christian hope to walk in sexual integrity before the Lord.

Neither can Jesus Christ’s churches play with fire without getting burned. The great whore herself, the mother church of Rome, has committed fornication with the world for 1500 years. Her religion is one of spiritual debauchery and abominations. You are commanded to reject such religious affiliations and not touch the unclean things (II Cor 6:14-17; Rev 18:4). God’s true churches must reject the embrace of the world and turn far away from her worldly beauty and flattery. It is impossible to enjoy her lying pleasures without God’s jealousy and judgment soon burning you up (Heb 10:30-31; 12:28-29).


Under Gods Command

Proverbs 5:22 The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast.

Solomon warned about sexual addiction 3000 years ago. Psychologists have only recently stumbled on it. Having warned his son about sexual sins and God’s punishment of them (Pr 5:1-21), Solomon added the sober warning of being bound by those sins for total destruction (Pr 5:22-23). Pleasures of sexual sins for a season may imprison you for life!

The context is plain and simple – sexual intimacy with anyone but your legitimate spouse (Pr 5:1-21). The man of this proverb is a fool that rejected the warnings and proceeded to sin with another woman. His sexual iniquities will take hold of his body and spirit, and he will be held in the chain-like shackles of his sexual sins. They will capture his very soul.

Sexual sins captivate a person’s soul more than others. Alcohol may lead to drunkenness and a chemical addiction, but fornication can lead to obsession with immoral thoughts and activity. Men who sin sexually are seldom recovered (Pr 2:18-19; 5:5-13; 6:26-35; 7:22-27; 9:17-18). Only God’s glorious grace can deliver a man from this bondage.

Sexual sins are also addictive in how they demand more and more stimulus to provide the original thrill. A voyeur seldom remains a voyeur. Few men are content with moderate pornography; they progressively seek more extreme and graphic images in order to feel the same level of sexual and sinful thrill of their first experiences with it.

Pornography itself is a case study in this progressive degeneration. What was called pornography 40-60 years ago is vastly different from pornography today. The difference is remarkable! Fools who began with female nudity in their teens must explore sodomy, bestiality, and pedophilia in their forties to get the same kick! And instead of improving marital pleasure, as their hearts lie to them, it destroys marital ability and satisfaction.

Young man! Older man! This proverb is as true as gravity. If you play with fantasies, pornography, fornication, or sodomy, you will destroy yourself. Your own sins will capture and imprison your soul. You will be unable to free yourself. You will never again love God, your wife, or godly living without a miracle from heaven. And God has not promised you or any other fornicator such a gracious and undeserved deliverance.

Consider Samson. He had good parents, was a Nazarite for life, was fearless of other men, and judged Israel twenty years. Samson lusted after Philistine women for their looks (Judges 14:1-3; 16:1), until he was helpless with Delilah. In spite of obvious intentions to destroy him, she was his omnipotent master (Judges 16:4-21). Why did he not catch on? Was he insane? He was a slave to sexual obsession. He ended up blind and a suicide.

Consider Amnon. He had good parents, was the firstborn son of King David, had the true religion of Jehovah, and could have had any eligible woman in Israel. But he sexually fantasized about his sister Tamar until he was sick with obsession for her. His addiction to this fantasy led to violently raping her, consequently hating her, and justifiably being killed by her brother Absalom (II Sam 13:1-39). He was a bond slave to fantasies.

Consider Solomon. He wrote Proverbs. He wrote this proverb. But women destroyed his life (I Kgs 11:4-13). How did it happen? He first married out of the Lord, against God’s command (Deut 7:1-6; I Kgs 3:1). He then became polygamous, also against God’s command (Deut 17:17; I Kings 11:1-3). His love of female variety became his sexual obsession, until he had 1000 women, which destroyed his life (Eccl 7:26-29).

Man! If you play with fantasies, pornography, fornication, or friendship with a woman not wholly the Lord’s, you are a flattering fool. You are a fool, because you have rejected God’s warnings. You are a flattering fool, because you have lied to yourself that you can get away with it. You will soon hate your pet sin, which will destroy you (Ps 36:2).

You are a fool to think you can escape your sin and its punishment by repenting later, for you are in perfect bondage to your lusts; you will neither be able nor willing to set yourself free. If you do escape sexual diseases, the rage of a jealous husband, or the sentence of the judge, you will be infallibly overtaken by the righteous judgment of God.

There is no greater bondage than a child of God who cannot repent and find joy and peace with his Lord. Do you hear me, sinner? He cannot repent! Why can he not repent? Because he has become a slave to his lusts, and his own heart is in the death throes of sinful thoughts and actions. Every time you allow a sinful thought or action in your life, you twist another sinful strand into the cords that will bind you in your sexual sins.

If you are playing with fantasies, pornography, or a sinful relationship, get away now. Flee youthful lusts, Paul would say (II Tim 2:22). Do not go near any place or thing that tempts you to sin sexually (Pr 4:15; 5:8; Ps 101:3; Rom 13:11). Pluck out your right eye or cut off your right hand rather than play with sexual sin, Jesus would say (Mat 5:28-30).

If you are addicted to a sexual sin, your case is not hopeless, but you will never free yourself by your means or strength. You must cut off the sin violently, totally, now! Repent with these words (Job 33:27-28). Beg God’s power in Jesus’ name to deliver you from sin, sex, and Satan. Humble yourself to a spouse, a parent, or a pastor with every condemning detail. Pursue God’s worship in public and private with your whole heart.

Nothing is too hard for the Lord Christ! You can read that harlots went into the kingdom of God before religious Pharisees (Matt 21:31). Paul told of many sexual sinners at Corinth, “And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God” (I Cor 6:11).


Under Gods Command

Proverbs 5:20 Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife?

Why do you even think about it? A beautiful woman offering sexual intimacy is a great temptation. Her flattering affection and fascinating body overwhelm most men. But the horrible consequences crush the pleasure! Why do you think about it? It will ruin you.

Good fathers warn their sons plainly about whores, as Solomon did often (Pr 2:16-19; 5:1-23; 6:20-35; 7:1-27; 9:13-18; 22:14; 23:26-28,33; Eccl 7:26). They are one of the greatest dangers for young men, especially for princes. Do you know their great danger?

No matter how desirable she appears, no matter how flatteringly she speaks, and no matter how certain you will not be caught, fornication with a strange woman is a foolish and horrible crime. The consequences are more painful than death, more permanent than life, deep as hell, and hardly any are recovered and returned to the land of the living.

A strange woman is any woman you have not married! Since you have not married her, you have no right to touch her. Your wife is your companion for life, and any other woman is a stranger. After giving negative (Pr 5:1-14) and then positive (Pr 5:15-19) reasons against the strange woman, Solomon asked why his son could even consider her.

The cure for the strange woman is a great marriage with your wife (Pr 5:19; I Cor 7:1-5; Heb 13:4). By exalting your wife in your mind, by choosing to be satisfied with her breasts, and by choosing to be overwhelmed with her love, there is no room for another woman. You cannot allow any bitterness to spoil your affection for your wife (Col 3:19).

The consequences of sex with a strange woman are horrific. Solomon described them as death and hell (Pr 2:18; 5:5; 7:27; 9:18). A life of death and hell, and hell after death! Few ever recover (Pr 2:19). Young man, forget the beautiful face and body! Ignore the flattering words! Reject any invitation! Do not let her touch or kiss you! Run far away!

You will break your wife’s heart, which God sees (Mal 2:13). You will lose your sure companion (Mal 2:14). You will lose your money (Pr 5:10) and your reputation (Pr 5:9). You will have a husband or father hating you (Pr 6:34-35). No one will understand why you did it (Pr 6:30-33). God will see it and punish you (Pr 5:21; 15:3; Heb 13:4).

You will create a binding sexual addiction to destroy you (Pr 5:22-23; 23:27). Your conscience will punish you with pain (Pr 5:11-14). You will lose a prosperous family of legitimate children (Pr 5:15-18). The pleasure is for a moment; the pain is forever (Pr 9:17-18). You will give occasion for God’s enemies to blaspheme (II Sam 12:14). Your prayers will not be heard (Ps 66:18), and you will face the lake of fire (Rev 21:8).

God in great mercy made Eve for Adam, and He ordained marriage for you to be sexually fulfilled with a devoted and helpful wife (I Cor 7:1-5; Heb 13:4). He invented love, marriage, and sex. Why would you ever think of disregarding the Creator’s rules for His invention? Humble yourself before His infinite wisdom and maximize your marriage.

If you played the fool and embraced the bosom of a stranger, there is hope, but it requires godly sorrow and repentance that most cannot understand or produce (II Cor 7:11). David was God’s favorite before and after his aggravated adultery and murder, because he totally humbled himself before God and confessed his heinous crime correctly (Job 33:27-28; II Sam 12:13; Ps 51:1-19). God will not despise your broken and contrite heart.